tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1697741764538750838.post1097571415233123399..comments2023-06-30T11:58:01.664-04:00Comments on Baptism by Fire: Exposure riskWolfershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12937704236275533865noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1697741764538750838.post-31864590168546512482012-04-27T17:23:37.901-04:002012-04-27T17:23:37.901-04:00You know, these things are really hard to discuss ...You know, these things are really hard to discuss at work. I worked at an ad agency at the time I was diagnosed w/cancer and had to have my hysterectomy. It was basically a terrible place to work - real meat grinder of a place. Anyway, because I had accounts that would need watching while I was out for my surgery, I had to talk to my co-workers about it. I guess I was given the option to tell them why I needed to have surgery, but in the end I chose to tell them why.<br /><br />I am not sure most of them really got it beyond "Cancer". I don't regret telling them and people were really helpful around work, but it wasn't like I got a lot of support out of it either. So, it just felt like people had a lot of pity for me.<br /><br />I think it is fine for you not to tell them or want to talk to them about it. I like to keep that stuff to myself at work. I agree, keep your energy to yourself for now. Sure, one day, you can discuss. I have become more open about it. Like, when annoying co-workers say to me "Any plans for kids?" I just say "I can't have children" now, which took me a while to come to. <br /><br />Take care of you first, and give yourself time. <br /><br />hugs.nicoleciomekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00126828010169796290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1697741764538750838.post-38703102348092005762012-04-26T23:18:10.115-04:002012-04-26T23:18:10.115-04:00"I need to keep all my energy to myself at th..."I need to keep all my energy to myself at this time." I totally understand that, and applaud you for recognising this.<br /><br />Like you I didn't tell anyone at work about my IF. I worked mainly with men, and I think they assumed that because I didn't tell them, it was probably "women's problems." I was happy to run with that - when they asked why I had been off work for my ectopic pregnancy, I just said "you'd run a mile if I told you." One guy persisted, and I just made it clear he wasn't getting any information, changed the subject, and that was that. Mostly they asked "if I was getting better or winning (before the Charlie Sheen connotations)" which I appreciated. It made work a place where I didn't have to explain myself, and when I didn't have to do that, I didn't risk being in tears. Which I would have hated, especially in front of men!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.com